everyday joys.

hey there. 

guess what? i’m a girl. i have curly hair and brown eyes. and every day i try my best to enhance my God given features with this weird stuff we call make-up. and then if i want to be able to walk out of my house without looking like i just stuck my finger in an electrical socket, i gotta lather up on the mousse and then use a diffuser (for those of you who do not know what a diffuser is, its this little head that i attach to my hair dryer that makes it look like some sort of alien killer gun or something.) to dry my hair to get the perfect curl (mind you, that rarely happens). oh, we haven’t even touched on clothes! hey, why don’t i just spend the rest of my life trying to find something i feel comfortable, cute and confident in? something that makes me feel pretty and attractive. because you know, as girls, we want to turn heads, don’t we? oh, we want to be hot, to be sexy, to be a bombshell and to blow every other girl out of the competition. okay, maybe that last one is just me.

okay, so simple math: girl wants to be beautiful in order to attract a boy.

yeah i know, you’re thinking, “meg, this is dumb, where are you going with this?” ah! i’m so glad you asked, come and see. 

it is obvious that we want the attention of a boy. in fact, some of us rely on the attention of boy to find our worth in the world. one of my biggest struggles growing up was, and still is to an extent, learning to be satisfied in Jesus and find my worth in Him. you know the scenario. you feel like everyone around you is getting a boyfriend and having so much fun with their life…except you. the lack of the affirmation of a boy can have a detrimental effect on us girls, can’t it? and it can be so easy to settle for less than God’s best just to satisfy the longing.

so, what is our role as the girl? oh, its beautiful. the Christian bubble tends to put a lot of pressure on the guy and a lot of emphasis on how he should lead. and believe me when i say i think it is beyond important how the man leads and whether he protects your purity. his relationship with Jesus should be number one. you coming in at a close second. but something that a lot people miss is the girl’s responsibility.

i heard someone say recently that the true secret to being happy with a boy is to be, first and foremost, satisfied with Jesus. when we are satisfied in Him is the only time we will be satisfied with a boy. when we find our satisfaction in Him we are not looking for a boy to fill a Jesus sized hole in our heart. the boy is just icing on the cake. meaning you two get to enjoy yourselves without pressure to be each other’s saviors.

with valentine’s day right around the corner, i know what it feels like to be single on that day. it sucks. but my challenge to you, (and to the non-single ladies) take yourself and Jesus out on date on Monday. go somewhere you normally wouldn’t go to spend time with him. turn off your phone. set aside a good chunk of time to just be with him and soak up his love for you. learn what it means to be a daughter of the King and how Jesus CHERISHES you. 

He is the ultimate man. Jesus loves you, He wants you and your heart. and He will fight for you. He wants you for more than what you look like or for the witty banter that you two have. He created you and wants you to love Him as much as He loves you. He will catch you when you fall and hold your hand as you walk through life. Jesus is my man and wants all of me. He wants all of you.